Questioning Friendship

I can’t figure out what to do about a friend of mine.  We share lots of interests and hang out occasionally, but I don’t really feel like the mutual caring of friendship exists between us.  I feel like our friendship is only on the surface.  In fact, to hear her talk, it doesn’t seem like she really has any genuine friendships.  I feel like friendship should involve caring, concern, and mutual thoughtfulness.  This friend of mine seems more concerned with tearing me down in front of others to make herself look better or feel better.  I am not sure if this behavior stems from insecurity or threat, but it is incredibly hurtful to me.  I feel like our friendship is a crossroads, at least from my perspective, because I can either keep going and say nothing or I can drop the bomb and see what happens.  One of my concerns is that I will lose what I consider to be the only person in my life right now who has similar interests and tastes.  My other concern is that I hurt her.  I don’t have a lot of friends who I regularly spend time with outside of work or other social networks.  I also haven’t found anyone else who shares as many common interests with me.  Is having someone to hang out with worth maintaining an empty friendship?

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